The Bow & Arrow

Pastor Ed @ CBC

🏹The Bow & Arrow

Ephesians 6:1-4

Notice Four Principles that set the trajectory in Parenting: 

1. The Mandate for Obedience: (Eph. 6:1-2)
A) Action-"Obey" (1)
B) Attitude-"Honor" (2)
• Delayed obedience is disobedience.
• Attitude is everything.

2. The Means of Outpouring (Eph. 6:3)
A) Perspective-"go well with you..."
B) Possession- "live long in the land"
• Obedience = Blessing
• If you can't live up to physical visible responsibility, then gow can you live up to the spiritual invisible responsibility of God?

3. The Metric in Oversight (Eph. 6:4a)
• Provoke: Irritate, agitate, aggrivate
• Provocation fosters prolonged adolescence.

4. The Missional Opportunity (Eph. 6:4b)
A) Duty (physical/Emotional):  "bring them up"-To nourish them to maturity. 
B) Discipline (Emotional/Social)-To train in accordance of conduct and behavior
C) Direction (Spiritual)- "to impart understanding, to have a corrective influence on someone"
• Rules Without Relationship = Rebellion
• Be the first person to admit the mistake.

Psalm 127:3-4: Like the Arrows in the hand of a Warrior are the children of one's youth, blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!

The Tool of Discipline:

B:  Be Consistent

O:  Own your Mistakes

W: Words of Affirmation
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The Training of Discipleship

A: Acceptance comes from God

R: Reject Apathy (model godliness)

R: Resist Temptation

O: Obedient to the Word

W: Worship is Life

The Target of Direction:

The TARGET is TO the World, not FROM the World.
It's not your job to make Godly children but it is the parent's job to make sure their children have Godly parents.

"You Are Good" by Brian Johnson and Jeremy Riddle

"Sing To The King" by Billy Foote and Charles Silvester Horne

"We Will See" by Phil Vega

"Praise The King" by Corey Voss, Dustin Smith, Michael Bryce Jr., and Michael Farren

"O Come To The Altar" by Christopher Brown, Mack Brock, Steven Furtick, and Wade Joye

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Tick Tick Boom

when I was younger I remember television programs making jokes about women's biological clocks ticking. I didn't think it was funny then,and I don't thinkit's funny now. good blessed me with all of this equipment and I think that I should use it. I'm not even doing to have kids; a flood of people I know had kids last year and it does not arm fun. I do want kids but no more or less than I wanted them before.

Everytime I start a new cycle I hear a giant church bell and see giant clock hands strike 12. I know it sounds dramatic, but I'm serious. What makes it worse is that the older i get the more additional problems i seem to get, problems that people say are normal. Not to mention all the horror stories about pregnancy being higher risk as you get older.

Sometimes i wish life was like that movie Blue Lagoon. They were like Adam and Eve. They didn't really know anything about life so everything was a surprise. Sometimes I think that anticipation is the worse stress that exists. If i didn't know that I could have a baby then that would be one less thing to worry about.

I think that i figured out the secret i will focus on everything that i don't know.

Spare the Rod Keep the Discipline

People are so focused on "protecting" children that they are failing to discipline those children. This is sad since discipline is the best form of protection that you can give your children. Children need to be trained to display order and obedience appropriate to EVERY setting. This means that your child needs to know that there are rules everywhere which may differ from the rules that he or she is accustomed to. Even though those rules are different, they still must be followed. Your child needs to know that if those rules are not followed there are consequences that may differ from the consequences that he or she is used to. I am not saying that you have to be okay with consequence that you deem inappropriate for your child.

If you have a problem with the way another adult disciplines your child, it is your responsibility to talk to that adult about that IN PRIVATE. In addition to (and before) you talk to that adult about your issue, address the infraction that led to the discipline! More than likely, the adult who YOU entrusted your child's care to did not arbitrarily discipline your child. Your child did something wrong! Even if YOU don't think it's wrong, it was wrong in the setting that you left your child in. Children need to know that there are different rules EVERYWHERE and just because it's okay in one place (i.e. at your house) doesn't mean it's okay everywhere else.

As a child, I would tell my mom when adults disciplined me. Her FIRST question was always, "Well, what did you do?" Whether or not she had a problem with what they did was not what she chose to discuss with me; I think that was an excellent decision. Children should know that adults are backing each other up and they aren't going to play us against each other. 

The bottom line is, police can KILL your child if he or she breaks the rules: DON"T LET IT GET THAT BAD. Teach them early that there are rules everywhere, those rules may differ from the rules that you are accustomed to, if those rules are broken then there will be consequences, and those consequences may differ from the consequences that you are used to.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:6

verb (used with object)

10.

to train by instruction and exercise; drill.

11.

to bring to a state of order and obedience by training andcontrol.

12.

to punish or penalize in order to train and control; correct;chastise.

Is Your Child Going to be Riding with Someone You Don't Know?

It happens every single day. Your child's friend wants him or her to stay the night, so that friend's parent comes to pick them up. Maybe your child is being watched by a babysitter that drives or any other situation where your child may be riding along with someone else. Do you know how they drive? Do you know if they have ever had tickets for speeding or running a red light, or if they have had a DUI? This is pretty scary to think about.

How do you really know what is going on when your child is in the car with someone else? It would certainly help you be a better judge if you knew what was on that person's driving record, wouldn't it? You're not going to come out and ask them because even if there are some shady spots on their record, they're probably not going to admit it to you. There is a way you can tell exactly what is on a person's driving record and whether or not they have had a DUI or other driving offense. Simply by visiting a site like www.WebInvestigator.com, you are able to type in a person's name and get access to important records just like this.

You can find out if this is a safe person with whom to let your child ride. That's right. You don't need any sort of special information like a Social Security number, birth date, or anything else. Simply by typing in the name and the state, you can get access to the records you need to tell whether or not your child will be riding in a safe vehicle. That's not the only information you can receive, however. You are able to find out if the person has ever been convicted of a misdemeanor or a felony. There are so many nice people who are hiding secrets that you would never dream of.

There are parents who have let their children go with a particular person, thinking everything would be perfectly safe. Now those parents spend every day of their lives wishing they had double-checked, or they had told their children they couldn't go. You never, ever want to be one of these parents. Regardless of how nice someone seems, and how responsible they may sound, do your homework. Don't let your child leave with them until you know for sure how safe they are.

Knowing is very important when you're a parent, and it is essential to keep your children safe. If you have ever needed information about a person's driving record, or if your child frequently rides with parents of other children, this website will be invaluable to you. If you have ever needed to find out information about a person's past, this website will provide you with that information. In fact, it just might help you prevent a tragedy.